Forgiveness is hard – a lot of times because of what we think forgiveness is.
We all have a lot of things and people in our lives to forgive.
Most people know the forgiveness part of the Lord’s prayer: forgive others as we have been forgiven.”
But sometimes we struggle with the idea of forgiving because we don’t know what forgiveness is NOT.
What! How can I forgive others if the act of forgiveness is not between me and the one who offended me?
All five of these “knots” are answered in the last phrase of the Lord’s Prayer – as we have been forgiven.
How was that? How have I been forgiven?
I was forgiven, according to I John 1:9 and other verses
So if I forgive as I have been forgiven. . .
I will choose to release that offense/grievance/sin and the person to God without waiting for or expecting change, regret or response from them.
It made me chuckle to think that we puny humans think we can change a person’s heart. Only God can do that.
Embracing unforgiveness (the choice not to release the offense and the offender to God)
is NOT an act of righteousness. Even if we were/are in the right.
Every offense comes with a choice and an opportunity.
A choice to receive it and nurse it
a choice and opportunity to Forgive – as God has forgiven me