Anger – a punishment we give ourselves, usually for someone else’s mistake.
Anger – whoever makes you angry, or keeps you angry, has control of you – your emotions and your attitude.
Anger – God expects it. He understands we will get angry, but gives us a choice and directions of what to let it do and not do.
A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.
What good can anger possibly do?
Anger can help us identify triggers
Anger can motivate us to do something about whatever makes us angry
Anger can help cope with stress by discharging the tension that built up to that point
Anger can make us face consequences (especially if we are angry at ourselves)
Anger can lead us to call out to God when we realize who or what is controlling us
Anger can be a bargaining tool if it makes the antagonist realize they are being hurtful.
Anger can increase cooperation if the anger is justified and controlled and appropriate
Anger can lead to self-improvement if we improve or change our response to its triggers
Aristotle said: “Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.”
The Bible says:
James 1: 19-20
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
A fool gives full vent to his spirit, but a wise man quietly holds it back.
We all have many stories of the hurt anger has caused but do you have a story of some good that controlled anger has brought about?
I don’t often get to spend time with my friend/daughter-in-law (DIL) Kris, so when she saw a bucket list item in the middle of a 100 mile rummage sale, I was happy to offer to be the designated driver and she the designated navigator.
When I informed my husband, however, he had another idea – a dare, really. He originally thought I said we were going to 100 rummage sales, and I suppose that was possible though even the thought was exhausting. We are, like most people our age, at the stage of downsizing, not hunting for gems at rummage sales. Consequently he challenged me to take 100 items and leave one at each rummage sale, so instead of bringing home 100 things, I’d be getting rid of them!
I accepted the challenge and prepared a box of items (though no where near 100 items). I also prayed that God would guide what I would leave where, and if it was his will that I could encourage or connect with at least one person through this special trip.
I’ve become, as daughters, friends and family have indicated, more and more controlling as the years go by – not that I like to control them, but that I like to be in control. I brought along a paper printout of each city stop on the route, with distances etc. Kris put it away in the car and pulled out her GPS! I had to learn trust real quickly.
We had a great time discussing many things and especially books on the way up. At one point I was sharing the synopsis of a current read and thinking dear DIL might like to read it when I was done. She let me go on for quite a bit (apparently patiently used to my detailed descriptions) and then she said, “That sounds like Sarah’s Key,” which it was. It was fun each night to tell her where I was and to answer her queries about how I felt about different characters and happenings.
The first day was driving, finding the bucket-list-museum to be nice though a bit underwhelming pole barn. We then began the dare, visiting the sales that were still open at dusk in a near-by town. Kris caught me explaining the dare to one lady and challenged me to slip the goodies onto their tables instead, so I began alternating. The next day was almost total rummaging. I’d drive and we’d see a sign with balloons or ribbons and she’d say yes or no and we’d pull in.
At first we were tempted by signs that said huge, then quickly found the seller’s view did not match ours. Even the sign saying biggest, best sale at the high school deluded us. We envisioned the gym filled with tables upon tables of goodies. There were a few tables outside the school and books on blankets in the grass. We were soon laughing when we saw the word HUGE on a sign.
We did browse and contribute to the Feral Friends sale. (they capture, neuter and release Feral cats to reduce population. It was located by one of the numerous historical markers on the edge of a little park and a depot in process of restoration.
Flea markets were pretty big with raw honey, jam, moringa tea, and lots of unidentifiable things but had a few of what we were looking for (golden books, baby clothes for a new great-grandchild and steam punk items) but the barn sales were very dirty. I grew up near a farm and still did not expect things for sale to be coated with dust and grease and to be priced well over what we knew the value to be. Almost every place we left, we next wanted to go wash our hands.
There was an interesting bohemian couple that found Kris’ broad knowledge interesting, so while they continued to chat and try to convince her to buy more of their books, I slipped over to another sale near the car. I’d seen the woman manning the tables go into the house, so it was a perfect opportunity to slip a couple of surprises on her table. As
we were leaving, the woman came out of the house, and began straightening items on the tables. She was bent over the stack of books on one corner (which now had two additional volumes) as we drove off J.
We did find a place to wash our hands and have a meal with “the best sweet potato fries ever” according to my navigator.
Getting tired of the sameness Kris suggested we try a few more and head north. There came a big green sign with that word on it. HUGE. And so, laughing we headed toward the woods, We drove past probably 7 or 8 green signs taunting us or comforting us, however you wanted to take it, that we were on the right road, we would soon get there, to keep on going, and we were almost there till finally at the top of a hill about 6 miles into the woods we saw a house halfway into the little valley. The 100 mile rummage sale had begun on Thursday so it’s likely the slim pickings should have been expected. I had a few things left in the car and felt I should leave a couple of Christian books at this one. I did not bring them with me to sneak them in. We walked through their goods and chatted with the friendly gals. I told them I was going to purchase a blue candle but I had something for them in the car. Kris was done shopping and entertaining the ladies with stories of our adventure, so she went to the car when I did and stayed there while I returned with the books.
As I re-approached their table, I explained the husband-dare, and like others they laughed and thought it was a great idea they might try someday. I handed both books to the gal sitting at the checkout table and she moved the top book to look at the second and gasped then held that book to her chest and exclaimed possessively, “This one’s mine!”. I asked her what that was about and she said she was amazed. A friend’s grandmother had highly recommended that she read that specific book, she said, and she had been wondering how a gal out in the middle of nowhere was going to find that book. Her friend came over and commented on the situation and the gal kept looking at the book and at me and shaking her head. Kris and I had exchanged info about where we live and so she knew it was a God-led coincidence for us to show up and hand her the book she was seeking at her friend’s grandma’s urging. It was obvious from the conversation the grandmother was a believer and wanted to share her faith with the younger woman.
I did not leave my name or info as I sometimes do, but did have in each book a postcard about where we are in the world compared to the sun. They were reading it aloud when I left. I did rather float out to the car in happiness. I love when God answers prayers like that.
A friend visiting today said that a wise person told him that the longer a person walks closely to Christ, the more unexplainable “coincidences” they will experience. He found it true.
I find it true as well.
What was your most recent unexplainable coincidence?
Today I can celebrate my name with new meanings
Do you like your name? My name, Delores, was a happenstance (carved into the door of the house into which my parents moved). And though it was better than my mother’s original plan (Fifi Fern), my name got a lot of teasing because of its meaning.
I don’t know what kid would be happy with a name that meant pain. Especially when your early life seemed to be filled with many kinds of pain. When my husband and I found Christ through reading the Bible, I began to look at my name in new ways:
If only I’d thought through and beyond that first name…
Delores – still means sorrow, but now it brings to mind the Via Dolorosa – the way of sorrows – that Christ walked to the cross.
Let’s repeat that slowly with meaning: for me. For me. For me.
This realization lifted off the specter of feeling doomed and chased by sorrows. I’d gloomed around like Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh, always expecting the worst. Though my life had many sorrows (some I admittedly caused myself), knowing Christ bore the pain and penalty of all my sins and sorrows lifted my heart greatly. Let’s face it, few are the people who make an effort to hang out with the Eeyores of life. More than an external change – I needed a new focus – away from myself and the symptoms of my despair to the only one who could conquer the cause.
Thinking of both of my names as a whole Delores Faith or Sorrows Faith enlightened me that one comes by way of surviving the other. There is no victory without a battle.
When my heart focus changed my spiritual vision and understanding changed too. I daily discovered that God is with us in our circumstances, and He does not want our past or present circumstances to control our new life. That new life is enduring and has purpose, restoration and protection.
This God-relationship grows as I spend time listening to His Words, focusing in faith as to what He can do, rather than what I cannot.
Have you found yours?
What is the meaning of your name?
As a Christian, my spiritual heritage is rooted in the faith of Israel and God’s chosen people. Consequently, when I read the whole Megilla (the book of Esther) and learned about Purim I wanted to celebrate too. Then I saw Esther 9:27!
After thwarting Haman’s plan to eradicate them, the Jews established a custom for:
Wow. An invitation encouraging us to celebrate together for generations to come, united in these ten teachings from Esther:
Though never directly named in the book of Esther, God is seen is through the existence of over a million Jewish people, including Mordecai and Esther.
Every time I meet a Jewish person I see living proof of God’s faithfulness to His eternal and unbreakable covenant: His chosen people would always survive.
The enemy’s whisper, “Where is your God?” is routed by blessings, guidance, and deliverances – proof of His promise that as He was with Esther, He is and will be with us.
Actions like Xerxes’ emotional banishment of Vashti, though created by the enemy and based on lies, create a platform where God will work. The Megilla tells how Esther became queen, and God worked His great purpose through her. In the middle of such an ego and power-driven situation, it would be easy to fear.
Just as America keeps her eyes on Washington, knowing its edicts can impact and change lives in an instant, so Xerxes’ kingdom must have watched the Persian palace with fear and trembling.
If we, like Esther, calmly and confidently look beyond the circumstances and the lawmakers, we confirm the truth of God’s sovereignty over all principalities and power. Relying on God’s Word provides rescue, peace, and hope.
Mordecai had taken Esther…Esther was taken by Persian authorities to the king’s palace.
Mordecai’s taken translates: brought – nourished.
The palace authorities’ taken means to tie, bind, imprison.
Esther must have felt overwhelmed by the difference. She was captive of a hidden enemy.
With Esther we learn the enemy is identifiable after being in God’s presence on a daily basis. God’s mirror reveals Xerxes’ downfall – making decisions and living by emotion and ego. It also reveals God’s character and desire to take us to safety.
Though captured bodily, Esther’s spirit was not overtaken. Mordecai ordered her to not reveal her nationality or lineage and Esther had the choice of response: to obey sullenly, rebelliously, willingly, and without murmuring or grumbling.
Taught unquestioning obedience for authoritative figures, Esther’s secret Jewishness did not color her responses to palace authority. Instead, lifetime training was so ingrained she retained it even when forcibly absent from Mordecai’s guidance.
We also find comfort in overwhelming circumstances, knowing our sovereign God is here: planning, protecting, and providing.
Xerxes’ pitiful example illustrated how decisions made in haste, or anger usually ends in regret.
Realizing she had no ability or power of her own, Esther chose to trust God on behalf of her people, telling Mordecai to ask all to fast and pray with her for 3 days to seek God’s direction.
Too often, only when all our options are exhausted, do we run to God. From Esther and Xerxes stories, we learn to run to God first, trusting Him to work through me, or someone else.
The combination of prayer and fasting is mighty. Esther’s example, to step back, evaluate, and seek God’s wisdom instead of reacting, continues to serve us well in our life of constantly impending threats and crisis.
Whether calculated, or led moment-by-moment, Esther’s actions reveal that she moved ahead while listening for God’s direction – leaving room for God to work.
She fasted, and stood in faith, dressed with all authority accorded to her. She went in to the king prepared physically, mentally, and spiritually.
Xerxes’ court must have gasped when Queen Esther entered uninvited. I imagine everyone holding their breath, wondering for what concern she would risk her life.
Did Esther plan dinners for the King and Haman before fasting or while fasting? Whenever, it had to be done in faith, believing God for the details.
Although Esther had somehow entered the palace without outward identification as Jewish, God and His promises still lived within her heart. Mordecai was hated by Haman for his identity, and it had to be only a matter of time until Haman figured out Esther was also Jewish.
The situation was delicate, for though Haman had constructed the evil law, the king had signed it. Esther now had to expose Haman without accusing the king, while publicly revealing truth about herself that she had not shared with the King.
But once Esther saw the right thing she moved decisively.
It had to be a miracle of God to the fasting Jews when Xerxes honored Mordecai. If the restless monarch hadn’t read the chronicles would he have believed Haman instead?
God reversed every negative. Haman’s edict brought mourning, fasting, weeping, and wailing; but later in 8:16, it was a time of light, gladness, joy, and honor.
God knew Haman would cast lots (Pur) until he got the date he wanted, allowing the intended destruction to be scheduled near Passover. While Esther’s story is a call to Purim…celebrating, feasting and rejoicing, Esther’s destiny reversal is even more about the Passover, commemorating their deliverance with purity (the blood of the Lamb).
Passover’s symbolism still proclaims that God is Elohim, reminding us: He who saved our firstborn continues to keep His covenant and His people…
God is sovereign, no matter our circumstance. We can trust Him to provide the only protection that will cause the enemy’s planned disaster to pass over us.
Only trusting in God’s truth can we cast aside foolish pride like Haman’s, and depending on God’s wisdom, make the right decisions, unlike Xerxes,
We can like Mordecai, be unafraid, despite personal risk, to identify the enemy. Admitting we can do nothing in our own strength, we can bow before God in prayer and fasting like Esther, then confidently move ahead, trusting our destiny ‘s resolution to Yeshua Messiah – King of Kings.
Commandments establishing Purim remind us to regularly practice remembering what God has done for ‘His people’, celebrating Messiah’s victory over every principality and power.
Because of sin, we all will face death, revealing our destiny-choices before God. We need to prepare for our remaining days as seriously as Esther, and celebrate our freedom and victories as heartily as all of Xerxes Jewish kingdom.
I can hardly wait to celebrate Purim – together!
Purposes of a Spiritual Lifeline are to help you write out your spiritual story – before your relationship with God, how it happened, and life changes after. It also helps to see if you have questions/concerns not yet answered, helps some to name or acknowledge growth or direction for life and ministry, and to recognize those who helped you along the way. My sisters Marlene and Marvel constantly encourage me .
Have you had some tough life experiences? Some tender ones?
Have you learned from those experiences, and passed along your life-lesson to others?
Do you find yourself recognizing others’ similar situations and sympathizing with them?
Here’s step one of a 5-step way to flesh out your heart-trained skills:
If you find this exercise helpful, you can later add to it with more specific dates and events, rather than time periods.
Who did you find important on your spiritual lifeline?
Psa. 139:1 GOD, investigate my life;
get all the facts firsthand.
Psa. 139:2 I’m an open book to you;
even from a distance, you know what I’m thinking.
Psa. 139:3 You know when I leave and when I get back;
I’m never out of your sight.
Psa. 139:4 You know everything I’m going to say
before I start the first sentence.
Psa. 139:5 I look behind me and you’re there,
then up ahead and you’re there, too—
your reassuring presence, coming and going.
Psa. 139:6 This is too much, too wonderful—
I can’t take it all in!
Unwanted – a mistake – bad seed – all these hurts – yet a knowing – someone – something is here with me. God, is that you?
I’ve tried to run away, hiding in the dark, changing my name, wanting to understand if life is so hard why am I here. Dreamer, they call me yet, deep within I hear a voice telling me not to be afraid – God is that you?
Psa. 139:7 -12
Is there anyplace I can go to avoid your Spirit?
to be out of your sight?
If I climb to the sky, you’re there!
If I go underground, you’re there!
If I flew on morning’s wings
to the far western horizon,
You’d find me in a minute—
you’re already there waiting!
Then I said to myself, “Oh, he even sees me in the dark!
At night I’m immersed in the light!”
It’s a fact: darkness isn’t dark to you;
night and day, darkness and light, they’re all the same to you.
I don’t know how I know that my life began before birth, but I do. There’s a sense of the beyond when I look at your creation – the great Orion calls out and says I know you…is that right? Is that you, God?
Oh yes, you shaped me first inside, then out;
you formed me in my mother’s womb.
I thank you, High God—you’re breathtaking!
Body and soul, I am marvelously made!
I worship in adoration—what a creation!
You know me inside and out,
you know every bone in my body;
You know exactly how I was made, bit by bit,
how I was sculpted from nothing into something.
Like an open book, you watched me grow from conception to birth;
all the stages of my life were spread out before you,
The days of my life all prepared
before I’d even lived one day.
Psa. 139:17 Your thoughts—how rare, how beautiful!
God, I’ll never comprehend them!
Psa. 139:18 I couldn’t even begin to count them—
any more than I could count the sand of the sea.
Oh, let me rise in the morning and live always with you!
Thank you, God for making yourself known to me.
Billy Sunday preached on prayer: “The man who truly prays ‘Thy kingdom come’ cannot pass a saloon and not ask himself the question, ‘What can I do to get rid of that thing that is blighting the lives of thousands of young men, that is wrecking homes, and that is dragging men and women down to hell?’ You cannot pray ‘Thy kingdom come,’ and then rush to the polls and vote for the thing that is preventing that kingdom from coming. You cannot pray ‘Thy kingdom come’ and then go and do the things that make the devil laugh. For the man who truly prays ‘Thy kingdom come’ it would be impossible to have one kind of religion on his knees and another when he behind the counter; it would be impossible to have one kind of religion in the pew and another in politics. When a man truly prays ‘Thy kingdom come’ he means it in everything or in nothing.”
Matt. 6:10 Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven.
Luke 11:2 And he said unto them, When ye pray, say, Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, as in heaven, so in earth.
Many things are going on in our country that are started, stopped and legalized via our political system.
I am challenged by these words from scripture and from Billy Sunday to make every day of my year the same. To make all my decisions – my yay’s and nay’s to answer the question – will this further the kingdom of God?
Three – or maybe four days of my year are spent at the polls and if I am a believer of living in activated faith, those days will be no different than choices I make at any store, what I watch or read, at someone’s sick bed, when and what I write, or how and with whom I spend my time.
Daily we are faced with choices, mockeries of the kingdom of God. Do we truly ask ourselves what can I do to get rid of or to stop that thing that is dragging, preventing, blocking, people from knowing and enjoying the presence of God?
In-tolerant? That sounds opposite of a Biblical response to the angry-about-almost-everything theme of these strange days we live in and I write about activating our faith. So how can intolerance and activating our faith possibly go together?
Scripture does not negate our normal feelings and emotional reactions to injustice of all kinds be it social, personal, spiritual, material or otherwise.
**Last things first explanation/disclaimer – The writer is addressing a church problem with false believers (those who themselves claim the title of Christian brother or sister) but whose lives (words/actions/habits/patterns) reveal otherwise.
Truly, there are more other verses that encourage us to love as we were loved and to forgive as we were forgiven when you are dealing with a repentant person.
Many people misunderstand intolerance to mean that we are not to associate with those who are not Christians. That is not at all what is being talked about.Those referred to in the passages about being intolerant are claiming the name of Christ while practicing the evils listed – it is part of their life and the fruit of their thoughts and actions.
And so regarding those we are told
Be intolerant of immorality
1Cor. 5:9 I wrote you in my letter not to associate with immoral people;
1Cor. 5:10 I did not at all mean with the immoral people of this world, or with the covetous and swindlers, or with idolaters; for then you would have to go out of the world.
1Cor. 5:11 But actually, I wrote to you not to associate with any so-called brother if he should be an immoral person, or covetous, or an idolater, or a reviler, or a drunkard, or a swindler — not even to eat with such a one.
Be intolerant of idolatry
1Cor. 10:14 Therefore, my beloved, flee from idolatry. It is interesting that the topic of idolatry stems from words like abomination (to stink, to be disgusted, to abhor), harlotry (including adultery and incest) and pornography (to indulge unlawful lust, fornication or promiscuity.
Be intolerant of uncontrolled anger
2Th. 3:6 Now we command you, brethren, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ, that you keep aloof from every brother who leads an unruly life and not according to the tradition which you received from us.
Eph. 4:26 Be angry and do not sin.
Everyone who is human will feel anger, but as believers we need to be aware of the first stages of anger and sensitive to curbing and controlling it lest it get out of hand.
What is this volatile anger that erupts into sin? This anger is more than melancholy or disappointment. The meaning of this anger is enraged or infuriate – to act with deliberate and continual injustice and to provoke the same.
To clarify again, all of these passages are talking about discipline in the church. Believers everywhere will be tempted and fall into these areas of sin, but those who are sensitive to the leading of the Holy Spirit will grieve their behavior and will apologize, repent, and seek restoration in relationships and community. They are to be forgiven, embraced and restored into fellowship. The Intolerance and discipline spoken of here is for those who refuse to stop and continue in their ungodly life patterns.
And finally, while being INTOLERANT of these ATTITUDES and PATTERNS OF ACTION AND THOUGHT (first in ourselves) we also acknowledge, particularly if they begin to be a habit:
If we, as believers have fallen into any of these areas of which the church is to be intolerant, we have opportunity to choose Christ and responsibility to become equipped to wrestle against those powers – fully alive in Christ.
I really like the way the Message translates this portion
Eph. 4:14 no prolonged infancies among us, please. We’ll not tolerate babes in the woods, small children who are an easy mark for impostors.
Instead we are to activate our faith:
Eph. 4:15 God wants us to grow up, to know the whole truth and tell it in love—like Christ in everything. We take our lead from Christ, who is the source of everything we do.
Eph. 4:16 He keeps us in step with each other. His very breath and blood flow through us, nourishing us so that we will grow up healthy in God, robust in love.
Eph. 4:17 And so I insist—and God backs me up on this—that there be no going along with the crowd, the empty-headed, mindless crowd.
Eph. 4:18 They’ve refused for so long to deal with God that they’ve lost touch not only with God but with reality itself.
Eph. 4:19 They can’t think straight anymore. Feeling no pain, they let themselves go in sexual obsession, addicted to every sort of perversion.
Eph. 4:20 But that’s no life for you. You learned Christ!
Eph. 4:21 My assumption is that you have paid careful attention to him, been well instructed in the truth precisely as we have it in Jesus.
Eph. 4:22 Since, then, we do not have the excuse of ignorance, everything—and I do mean everything—connected with that old way of life has to go. It’s rotten through and through. Get rid of it! And then take on an entirely new way of life—a God-fashioned life,
Eph. 4:23 a life renewed from the inside
Eph. 4:24 and working itself into your conduct as God accurately reproduces his character in you.
Eph. 4:25 What this adds up to, then, is this: no more lies, no more pretense. Tell your neighbor the truth. In Christ’s body we’re all connected to each other, after all. When you lie to others, you end up lying to yourself.
If you are wondering how to be tolerant of each other while being intolerant of false believers…read on…
Eph. 4:26 Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry—but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry.
Eph. 4:27 Don’t give the Devil that kind of foothold in your life.
Eph. 4:28 Did you used to make ends meet by stealing? Well, no more! Get an honest job so that you can help others who can’t work.
Eph. 4:29 Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.
Eph. 4:30 Don’t grieve God. Don’t break his heart. His Holy Spirit, moving and breathing in you, is the most intimate part of your life, making you fit for himself. Don’t take such a gift for granted.
Eph. 4:31 Make a clean break with all cutting, backbiting, profane talk.
Eph. 4:32 Be gentle with one another, sensitive. Forgive one another as quickly and thoroughly as God in Christ forgave you.
—the lines of intolerance were drawn by God out of love and protection.
“Photography is an art of observation. It has little to do with the things you see and everything to do with the way you see them.” – Elliott Erwitt
Jesus was coming to their house for lunch! What an emotional disaster I would be if I lived then and knew that the Messiah was coming to my house! If that wasn’t enough, I’d know that if He was coming, other important people would show up too! I would know that people would be talking for time to come about what they had seen, eaten, and heard. (notice I think a lot like the Martha most of us imagine – first concerned about what people will see or think). Sad, but true. I’d do a lot of what Martha did, working for days, getting things just right. I’d solicit help where I could, though, because I know that some skills of mine work better under pressure, but cooking and socializing are more spontaneous (like the time I forgot the sugar in the pumpkin pie). I would be so stressed. I would not want you to see my selfie at that moment. Have you ever felt that way?
Martha was obviously stressed. Perhaps Mary and Lazarus were not as excited (or as worried) about all the details as Martha was. We can see from the passage she was not happy with others’ response to her requests for help. Yet, Luke 10 gives us a clear picture showing it was Martha who invited Jesus, and consequently his followers, to their home. Now she is overwhelmed by the results of her own choices.
Luke 10:38-41 Now as they were traveling along, He entered a certain village; and a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her home.
But the Lord answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and bothered about so many things;
Stress is defined as the feeling a person has when they perceive that demands exceed their personal resources. First of all the story does not reveal anyone demanding dinner or anything else from Martha – the demands she felt or created were her own.
Secondly, ‘their personal resources’ in Martha’s case, would include her brother Lazarus, and her sister Mary who lived with them, and possibly other neighbors or friends who would have felt honored to prepare for the Messiah’s visit.
Martha’s actions reveal that she must also have been listening to Jesus when he preached in their area because when Christ challenged her at Lazarus’ burial place she confirmed her faith in Christ as the Messiah, and she knew about the resurrection day. I wonder -did Martha invite Jesus in gratefulness for his ministry to her sister’s spiritual change? Had Mary been apologetic, helpful and extra-kind since her experience at the home of the Pharisee?
Scriptures do not tell us all the answers, but Martha’s spiritual selfies do not always look so self-centered as I’d first thought. Here was a woman who had listened and could clearly communicate Jesus’ teachings. Here was a woman of a generous and hospitable nature who invited Jesus and his followers to their home. Had she invited Jesus before or was this the first time? Martha’s whining request seems as familiar as a toddler, ‘tattling’ on her sister. Martha had to know she was inviting a stressful crowd for dinner, because as Jesus said, she was worried about so many things. So much to do, so little time. And somebody’s got to do it – right?
Like most of us, Martha (and Mary) were multi-faceted. Their selfies would each have revealed only one part of who they really were, unlike Spiritual Selfies.
It does make me wonder, when I put myself in the story, how does my spiritual selfie look – more like Martha or Mary?
But more importantly what does my picture look like to Jesus?
Change what you can (Getting enough rest, eating properly, not going into stores if I don’t have funds all lowered stress for me). What choices could Martha have made to reduce her stress?
Zoom In – Do I have too many things on my plate?
Determine the one thing that will drive all areas of your life – spiritual, physical, mental, etc. Then make a list of what you are trying to accomplish – just today will likely be enough. Then cross off or drop the commitments that don’t line up with that main goal. Like What difference will it make in a decade if you don’t finish your list or give the perfect party? Would you rather wonder your whole life what the Savior might have said to you if you were at His feet like Mary, instead of in the kitchen frosting the cake?
Do what Martha should have done. Move the boundaries. Free yourself from the unrealistic expectations you’ve set for yourself, those you’ve let others set for you, and feel free to release others from your unrealistic expectations of them.
Capture It – On your journal page write the focus (Peace) at the top of the page and ONE THING you want accomplished by the end of the day. Remember defeating ourselves is not productive. Usually my one thing of every day is supper. Other things often fall into place – or not.
If you make peace the focus of today – in your thoughts – you should feel calmer. If you allowed peace to be the focus of your reactions, it should show. Whisper to yourself peace before answering any questions or challenges. Ask how can I do this to bring or show peace? Feeling peaceful and feeling overwhelmed cannot coexist. One will overrule the other. Choose peace.
LIKES: We often set the mood for our home. If you are peace-full, others will comment and react differently than when you feel tense and overwhelmed. Tomorrow morning come back and write your proof – the results of your day of peace. You just might want to try it again.
And your image of Martha – and yourself might just have changed 🙂
“No, I didn’t,” she said, pausing – “but it’s not MY birthday, is it?”
I didn’t get all I wanted for Christmas either. As a matter of fact, I was mystified that my husband (who’d been excited earlier in the month after announcing he knew the perfect gift for me) got me nothing from my list of wants. As a matter of fact when I opened his gift it was a what were you thinking moment.
It was a DVR player.
We’d just had a discussion about possibly changing our internet provider and they wanted us to sign up for TV too and we said no, we barely watch TV and don’t bring a DVR because we wouldn’t use it.
When I asked Ken why he had been so excited about this gift, his response shamed me. I’d whined for some time that our old DVD player would not play a lot of our movies. Apparently it was too old for some of the newer formats. Well this player would allow that! Once I realized what its potential was, I was thrilled (and apologetic for my less than enthusiastic response when opening it)
He gave me what I didn’t realize I wanted and needed.
Remember Ephesians 4:8 “When he ascended on high he led a host of captives, and he gave gifts to men.” As Jesus rose to Heaven, he gave gifts to us. He loves to give gifts. He loves it too when we gratefully receive His gifts and use them.
Some of His gifts were on my wish list. Others were surprises. All had several things in common:
They were very expensive gifts
They are each custom designed for me.
They all came gift-wrapped in love.
And like my husband’s gift – some are gifts I didn’t realize I wanted and needed.
What gifts have you received from Jesus? Are you using them?